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36 Characteristics of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder of Abandonment

© Susan Anderson September 28 2016

Overview

There was an enormous response to my first article describing the characteristics of PTSD of Abandonment – so many abandonment survivors writing in with open hearts to explain the best way abandonment trauma has been affecting their emotional responses and their conduct patterns.  The listing under depicts typical signs experienced by individuals scuffling with the aftermath of abandonment trauma.  I’ve added a further six options to the original record of 30 characteristics of PTSD of Abandonment.  Thank you to my readers, workshop individuals, and shoppers for their generous enter.

I’ve revised the article under accordingly:

The extreme emotional disaster of abandonment can create a trauma severe sufficient to go away an emotional imprint on individuals’ psychobiological functioning, affecting their future decisions and responses to rejection, loss, or disconnection.  Following an abandonment experience in childhood or maturity, some individuals develop a sequela of submit traumatic signs which share adequate features with submit traumatic stress disorder to be thought-about a subtype of this diagnostic category.

As with different varieties of publish trauma, the symptoms of publish traumatic stress dysfunction of abandonment vary from delicate to extreme.  PTSD of abandonment is a psychobiological condition through which earlier separation traumas intrude with current life.  An earmark of this interference is intrusive nervousness which frequently manifests as a pervasive feeling of insecurity – a main supply of self sabotage in our main relationships and in attaining long vary objectives.  One other earmark is a bent to compulsively reenact our abandonment situations by means of repetitive patterns, i.e., abandoholism – being interested in the unavailable.

One other factor of abandonment submit trauma is for victims to be plagued with diminished self-worth and heightened vulnerability inside social contexts (including the workplace) which intensifies their have to buttress their flagging ego power with protection mechanisms which could be routinely discharged and whose intention is to protect the narcissistically injured self from further rejection, criticism, or abandonment.  These habituated defenses are sometimes maladaptive to their objective in that they will create emotional rigidity and jeopardize our emotional connections.

Victims of abandonment trauma can have emotional flashbacks that flood us with feelings ranging from delicate nervousness to intense panic in response to triggers that we might or will not be acutely aware of.  As soon as our abandonment worry is triggered, it might result in what Daniel Goleman calls emotional hijacking.  During an emotional hijacking, the emotional mind has taken over, leaving its victims feeling an entire loss of management over their own lives, at the least momentarily.  If emotional hijacking occurs incessantly enough, its continual emotional excesses can result in self-depreciation and isolation inside relationships, as well as give rise to secondary circumstances resembling persistent melancholy, nervousness, obsessive considering, destructive narcissism, and habit.

Post Traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a so referred to as “disease” of the amygdala – the emotional middle of the mind chargeable for initiating the Battle Flee Freeze response.  In PTSD, the amygdala is about on overdrive to maintain us in a perpetual state of hyper-vigilance — action-ready to declare a state of emergency should it understand any menace even vaguely reminiscent of the unique trauma. The amygdala, appearing because the brain’s warning system, is consistently working to protect (overprotect) us from any risk of additional damage.  Within the publish trauma sequelae associated specifically to abandonment, the amygdala scans the setting for potential threats to our attachments or to our sense of self value.

Individuals with PTSD of abandonment can have heightened emotional responses to abandonment triggers which might be typically thought-about insignificant by others. As an example, relying on circumstances, once we feel slighted, criticized, or excluded, it may possibly instigate an emotional hijacking and intrude in, and even jeopardize your personal or professional life.

Under, I’ll determine some of the opposite points associated to submit traumatic stress dysfunction of abandonment:

36 Characteristics of submit traumatic stress disorder of abandonment

This listing is meant to be descriptive, slightly than exhaustive of the various issues related to the abandonment syndrome.

  1. An intense worry of abandonment that interferes in forming main relationships in adulthood.
  2. Intrusive insecurity that interferes in your social life and objective achievement.
  3. Nervousness with authority figures.
  4. Tendency towards self defeating conduct patterns that sabotage your love life, objectives, or profession.
  5. A bent to repeatedly subject yourself to individuals or experiences that lead to another loss, one other rejection, and one other trauma.
  6. Intrusive reawakening of previous losses; echoes of previous emotions of vulnerability and worry which intrude in present expertise.
  7. Heightened reminiscences of traumatic separations and other occasions.
  8. Conversely, partial or complete reminiscence blocks of childhood traumas.
  9. Low vanity, low sense of entitlement, efficiency nervousness.
  10. Feelings of emotional detachment, i.e. feeling numb to previous losses.
  11. Conversely, problem letting go of the painful emotions of previous rejections and losses.
  1. Problem letting go, even once we know the connection can’t meet our primary needs
  2. Episodes of self-neglectful or self damaging conduct.
  3. Problem withstanding (and overreacting to) the customary emotional ups and downs of your grownup relationships.
  4. Problem working by way of the bizarre ranges of battle and disappointment within your adult relationships.
  1. Excessive sensitivity to perceived rejections, exclusions or criticisms.
  2. Emotional pendulum swing between worry of engulfment and worry of abandonment; you possibly can alternate between ‘feeling the walls close in’ if someone gets too shut and feeling insecure, love starved – on a precipice of abandonment – in case you are unsure of the individual’s love.
  3. Problem feeling the love and other bodily comforts provided by a prepared companion – “keeping them out” or “pushing them away; proof of emotional anorexia or emotional bulimia.
  4. Tendency to ‘get turned off’ and ‘lose the connection’ by involuntarily shutting down romantically and/or sexually on a prepared associate.
  5. Conversely, tendency to really feel hopelessly hooked on a associate who is emotionally distancing.
  6. Tendency to have emotional hangovers ‘the morning after’ you will have had contact with an ex or someone over whom you have got felt ache.
  7. Problem naming your emotions or sorting via an emotional fog.
  8. Abandophobism – a bent to keep away from shut relationships altogether to avoid danger of abandonment.
  9. Conversely, a bent to hurry into relationships and clamp on too shortly.
  10. Problem letting go because you’ve got hooked up with emotional epoxy, even when you already know your companion is not capable of fulfill your wants, and even when you already know your associate shouldn’t be good for you.
  11. An excessive need for control, whether or not it’s about the necessity to control the other’s conduct and ideas, or about being excessively self-controlled; a have to have the whole lot good and finished your approach.
  12. Conversely, a bent to create chaos by avoiding duty, procrastinating, giving up control to others, and feeling out of management.
  13. A heightened sense of duty to others, rescuing, attending to individuals’s wants, even once they have not voiced them.
  14. Tendency to have unrealistic expectations and heightened reactivity towards others such that it creates battle and burns bridges to your social connections.
  15. Individuals-pleasing – excessive need for acceptance or approval.
  16. Self-judgment; unrealistic expectations towards your self.
  17. Worry response to individuals’s anger, which unwittingly units you up to being “controlled” by them.
  18. Co-dependency points by which you give an excessive amount of of yourself to others and really feel you don’t get enough back.
  19. Tendency to behave impulsively without with the ability to put the brakes on, even if you end up conscious of the unfavorable consequences.
  20. Tendency towards unpredictable outbursts of anger.
  21. Conversely, tendency to under-react to anger out of worry of breaking the connection and in addition out of your extreme aversion to ‘not being liked’.

The impression of abandonment trauma might be mitigated by abandonment restoration – a program of therapy methods designed that will help you overcome abandonment and its aftermath of self sabotaging patterns.

Please see further articles that provide help to discover whether or not you’re on the abandonment trauma spectrum, supply practical help, explain why some individuals are more vulnerable to getting submit traumatic stress dysfunction of abandonment than others, and the 5 Phases of Abandonment and Recovery which offers hands-on assist for individuals throughout the abandonment spectrum—these with submit trauma and those without. The workbook is helpful in guiding you through the abandonment therapy methods step by step, educating you self help instruments for each of the 5 phases specific to abandonment grief and trauma.

See additionally:

Are You on the Abandonment Spectrum?  Do you could have Signs of PTSD of Abandonment?

What is the Abandonment Syndrome?

How Is PTSD of Abandonment Totally different from Borderline? (BPD)

PTSD of Abandonment: Why some individuals are More Susceptible to Creating it than Others

The Five Levels of Abandonment and Restoration

Abandonment versus Borderline: 12 Tasks for Dealing with Emotional Hijacking

Worry of Abandomnent: 10 Methods to Turn it Round

Abandonment Recovery: How it Overcomes Abandonment Trauma and its Aftermath of Self Sabotaging Patterns